Love is neither an emotion nor a feeling; rather, it’s an attachment and state of mind. Love brings with it some of the most striking and powerful physiological changes a body can experience, which is part of why it affects us so deeply. Its main components (lust, attraction and attachment) flood the limbic system with [...]
A good friend of mine is a mom with two kids and she sells weed in a state in which it’s still illegal. Before you begin your judgment (I’m sure some of you find it morally wrong and punishable), I’ll tell you that she has already rehashed your thoughts in her head. She knows the [...]
Turns out, exploring the inner workings of humor is serious business. What is funny? Are there any aspects of humor that have and will continue to endure for generations and appeal to all classes? If so, what are they? Sometimes I think about the funny part of the brain…humor seems to require both a target [...]
Between modeling and being a companion to Type-A men, I meet a lot of people who struggle with eating disorders. These folks aren’t in tune to their bodies, so they don’t know how to nourish themselves. I wish they’d think of their bodies like a friend…would they berate their friendship for having some junk? Nope. [...]
Most of us are aware that we don’t know everything, so we often seek out mentors. Social media offers a new way to get a leg up on that; we can digitally stalk our mentors, preparing ideas for great conversation and open up ways of connecting when we get in touch. In addition to [...]
Five easy ways to stay well are: socialize, exercise, focus, learn, and give. Consider the pleasure of sharing all five of these with another human, finding exactly the right mix and balance that suits you both. The psychological benefits of companionship are well-documented, but clearly it promotes physical health as well. Being with a companion [...]
Comfort food. Soul food. I’m used to hearing these descriptors for macaroni and cheese, but I heard a man today talk this way about ramen, as he took me to a restaurant that made me appreciate the staple food exponentially more than I had. There’s great healing power to be found in food. It comforts [...]
Should companionship ever rival traditional dating? Any of us companions has some responsibility to separate fact from fiction; I don’t recommend my services in lieu of traditional love. I’m honest with my clients and the onus is on them to keep things sane; I hope they’re not seeing me to confuse me with an IRL [...]
There are a few reasons my attitude toward stress does me harm. The first is behavioral…if I think I’m stressed, I’m more likely to reach for a cocktail, cookies or other ways to help myself cope that don’t fit into my otherwise-healthy lifestyle. On the other hand, when I’ve been able to view stress as [...]
